Well, every boy becomes a man, when he starts to fit into his Dad's shoes. It is a phrase which you too might have heard at many places from many faces. It sure is true, but it doesn't always mean that you are ready to be a Dad. Being a parent is very difficult and needs a lot of patience and hard work. If you ever had very young cousins or siblings, you would know how much care they used to need from their parents. Every parent has to be very cautious and caring about their child. But, the Father has a stricter and stronger role to play here. This is why we dedicate this page to every Father around the world. This is The Life of a Dad.
Although there are no cheat codes or secret guides to be a Great Father, still you would know when you are one. And, yes we can't tell you how to or ask you to feel a certain way. It is true that you are a dad and you will feel like showering all your love on your baby. Still, as we are normal humans, you might fall into mistaking a few things. Here are the best tips in the first column of this page, about How to be a Good Dad?
It is okay to want to be the Best, but still don't stress too much about it. Give yourself some space and some relief. You are a human, and understand that humans make mistakes. And, you probably even made a mistake, this is why you are here, right? It is okay, just learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them. You are a great dad if you want to give all the comforts to your baby and are working in that direction every day.
It is recommendable to start off quick. By starting off quick I mean that you should start telling yourself that you are a father, even when you are just waiting for the baby. Start giving the mom her space. Try to be more active, aware and efficient in whatever you are doing. Start taking up more responsibilities. Grow slowly, don't burden yourself all at once. But, yes grow slow, but do grow. This way you will be ready when the baby actually comes to the world.
Start helping your partner, so she doesn't have to bear all the stress alone. Try to help her with anything, that you might have to. She might be occupied with a hundred new things every day to work for. The best that you can do is help her do all her works. So, she can have time for herself after those works are over.
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I know that this is a Mom's Job to breastfeed the child. You can't do that no matter how much you want to. It's something only the Mother can do. But, you can be there with her. Being awake alone would cause her to feel bad. You must not let that happen. Tell the Mom that you are with her. And you are there if she needs any help. So, wake up for the late night feedings, even if you first feel like you don't want to.
True that you might have to push yourself a bit, but your partner sacrifices a lot for you and the baby. You too can do that, right?
Fathers generally come across this difficulty of not being able to express their love for their children. But, hey your children want you to show them your love. They want it. And, then it is only you who can and should actually love them like a Father, right? So, don't shy away. It might feel a bit awkward at first if you have never done anything like this before, but trust me you will feel way better when you will start to be more open with your kids. So, learn this thing now.
I remember when I was a kid, I used to think that I would love my kids a lot. I won't scold them ever, I won't say no to them ever. Although these things are unrealistic, after an extent, but can you at least give them something near to that? Like my Grandpa used to scold my Dad as he loved to fly kites when he was a kid. He used to feel bad about it and used to say that he would never stop his son from doing any sports. I truly remember my Father flying kites with my brother and even playing Cricket with him.
Just give something near to what you wanted to be given to you. Treat them the way you wanted to be treated when you were a kid.
Whether it is physically or verbally, don't do this. There can be times when you are angry. Also, you might have had a bad day. Your partner's most days are like that, and she doesn't complain. No dad can ever abuse the kid. Not that I am pointing at you or anyone, But just that I want to tell you this. No one should do this.
Although, people keep giving advice about raising the children right. Have they themselves even raised their kids right? Trust me, what I have realized is that there is no good or bad way. It is just that you have to follow your parents if you think they raised you right. You can raise your kids right. So just take some guidance from them and you are all good to go.
I am not talking about the materials. Yes, kids are demanding and you can't fulfill all of their non-legit demands, just because you can. But still, there would be a lot of other things, which they would want you to do for them. So, try to better understand what your Kids actually want from you.
Now, this was it for now. This page about the Life of a Dad will have a lot more content relating to the same. This was about How to be a Good Dad? And yes, do remember not to stress yourself about it at all.
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